Attachment needs or typical toddler behavior?

This past weekend we went up to Chris' parents house.  With all of his family.  There was a lot of us.  And due to people logistics, we couldn't sleep close together.  Moyz got the laundry room, and Kembia the space under the stairs.

When I placed Moyz in his pack n' play and walked away he went ballistic.  I mean the kind of frantic screaming I haven't heard in quite awhile.  I immediately went back in to calm him down and lay him down again and whisper nice things to him.  The minute I walked away the screaming again.  He climbed out of the pack n' play and fell onto the cement floor.  After about 5 minutes of soothing/going back in, I decided to let him scream it out.

It was kind of a big moment for me.  We have let him scream it out at home, but this was in a much more unfamiliar place with a lot of people that he knows, but doesn't necessarily see regularly.  I went upstairs and was talking with my sister in law and trying to ignore his pleading cries.

Of course all sorts of terrible attachment stuff was going through my brain- I was setting him back to when we first got home, he was going to feel abandoned, he would mentally change and start peeing/pooping on the walls because he couldn't handle family.  Basically the worst-case attachment scenarios I had read all about were running through my mind.

And then he fell asleep.

The next day, normal as ever.  No changes in behavior, nothing.  Just my sweet, crazy energy little boy.  It was a good moment for me.  He's come a long way.

Adoption Tax Refund Update

Not much to update actually.  I just called today to see where we are in the scheme of things.  And they have not looked at our file yet.

Timeline:

March 1 sent in taxes
Late March got letter stating they needed all info. again
Sent in all sorts of paperwork
April 18 they registered our new paperwork
Now we wait for them to review it and hope and pray that they don't ask for more information.

Bummer.  They also said there was nothing they could do to expedite it unless we were in a financial hardship.  They said to call back July 1st and see where it is.  If they haven't even looked at it by then I think I may consider calling a tax advocate.  That would be 5 months that they have had our file and still nothing.  Seems like an adequate amount of time to me.

Moyz's New Hair

Moyz's hair is still filling in.  The curls that he did have were long, although you couldn't really tell until you pulled them out.  Then they were several inches.  We thought maybe we would try to loc his hair, but he still had a lot of sparse spots, so we decided to go for the big buzz.

At first I was almost in shock how different he looked.  How soooo much older he looks.  Holy cow!  Where did my babies go?!  Look at these two- they aren't even two years old yet.  And I am sad to say, not looking one ounce like a little kid any more.  Man they've come a long way.

My New World Map

I have been wanting a kick-butt world map.  Yesterday I went on to etsy.  That etsy is a dangerous place.  But I found this beauty.



Isn't it gorgeous?  It's done by a young guy in England.  I ordered it in a 3 foot by 5 foot size, and I plan on hanging it in my kitchen.  But first, I have to paint all the walls black, and then one of the walls will have black and white stripes.  Add this awesome map and lots of white and colorful accents and I think it's going to rock the house.

Of course, I may have to change the cupboards from black to white, and that's always a lot of work, but we'll see.

The bigger problem is how I am going to do all of this painting with all my babies?

Detachment Parenting

For all of us Attachment Parenting parents, thought you would appreciate this article.  I got a good laugh out of it!  And some things may or may not be true in this house!

http://moms.today.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2012/05/18/11748100-the-latest-child-rearing-fad-detachment-parenting?lite

Pink and Black Braids

I have a friend who's daughters have braids with colored yarn in them.  It looks so stinking adorable I had to do it with Kembia.  Well, we started last night, and then will finish today.  Here's the pic half way through.  Notice that she is in Moyz's jammies, and you can see Truitt in Kembia's pink jammies.  Moyz has no jammies on, that's because he peed in them.  But the other two, I feel a little bad about putting a girl in boys jammies and  vice versa, but if I can't find their's when I am looking I just grab the first one I see.  It will probably give them a complex of some sort, but that's just part of growing up.

I have to admit I am not sure how I feel about them.  She is super cute in braids, but colored braids make her seem a lot older.  She's not even 2 yet, and she has colored hair!  I envision later rebellion where she comes home with a colored fro.  And now Ava has hair envy and has requested yarn braids with color as well.

Plus, this morning Ava came up with some tattoos and asked if she could put it between her shoulder blades.  When pressed for the reason, she said "because that is where you have yours".  In the end, they were iron ons, and not tattoos so she had to go without.

What am I setting myself up for?!

Nail Polish

Miss Kembia was sitting oh-so-sweetly on the couch watching tv.   I should have known better.

When I walked over I discovered that she had found a bottle of nail polish.  You know where this is going.

She painted her fingers, and toes and feet and hands and stomach.  And the couch.

Good thing she's cute.