So the kids have been home one month. In terms of attachment I sort of feel like we started over 2 weeks ago when Truitt was born, but technically they have been with us 30 days. Funny how you wait years to get them, and then all of a sudden all that time has passed. Here is a list of what I have learned so far:
- You must sweep your floors. At first this seems like something we would all do. But I have to admit that when you don't have kids that eat off them, this may or may not happen all of the time at the Nelson household. ahem. But now, I at least regularly look to see if there is a choking hazard around. Sometimes I may or may not just leave the cheerios where they fall, it's like a litte snack later for some crawling, discovering child!
- Poop free diapers in the morning is one of the highlights of my day. There is nothing more of a bummer (okay, there are definitely more bummer things) then when I go in to get the kids up and they both have diapers so full they are literally exploding up the bag of their clothes. Yuck. It's a good thing I have about 10 crib sheets.
- Plastic containers rule. Open up the tupperware drawer and I will always have enough time to get my dishes done.
- Speaking of dishes, paper plates have become the new style at our home. Part of me feels guilty for the environment and everything, but almost most of me is happy because I can just toss them into the garbage. Done deal.
- I love our friends and church members. They have been providing meals Monday, Wednesday and Friday since the twins got home, and unbelieveably, will continue to do so through October. What a huge blessing. I am already dreading the day that I have to cook a meal every night of the week!
- Attachment is a bizarre thing. What works for one child, the other could care less about. The good news is, we seem to be making good progress with both kids in this area. Moyz a little more so than Kembia, but definitely good things with both.
- I hate to admit it, but I do believe I will be housebound more than I care to. Normally, I love to get out and do things, but I have come to understand that it is just too much work in most circumstances at this stage in the game to haul everyone, not to mention all the stuff that is needed for three babies, out and about. Perhaps in a couple more months it will be much easier. At least that's my hope.
- When all three kids are crying, it drives me insane. There is crying, and then there is that pathetic, the world is ending crying. That's the crying that drives me up a wall. The not-really-anything-wrong-but-everyone-is-doing-it-cry.
- I haven't felt like I have just been babysitting Moyz and Kembia. This is a good thing. I read a lot about people who have had that experience, and I was very nervous about it. I think it has to do with the fact that our kids are little and still pretty needy, as opposed to a 3 year old who does a lot for themself.
- Was not expecting to lactate when Moyz and Kembia cry. This was a surprise, and kind of annoying, because it leads to feeling like I am going to explode a lot of the time. Not fun.
- I love it when my husband comes home from work. I literally have had days where he walks in and I hand him one or two kids and then go into the bedroom and shut the door for a few minutes. It definitely helps.
- Love that we have seen so much change in Moyz and kembia, both in what they can do physically, like crawling and pulling themselves up, but also with just loving them and watching them interact with everyone.
Hopefully, there will be some good strides the next month as well. Definitely excited about less neediness from Kembia, and that both kids will handle it just fine if I leave the room. That has been the hardest thing so far. Sometimes, I can't be with them 24/7 and it has been a long process with them. They are learning that Mommy comes back, but it has been tough. But we knew that the first few months would more than likely be hard.